Risks of dating separated men
To Seku, “Traditional relating is just not matching up. Some men look elsewhere in order to feel like they’re not dying.They want to reproduce what they felt when they first met their wife.” There are of course the ménage à trois scenarios as opposed to dating a number of people.“I’ve come to find out a LOT of women are open to being with another woman and having fantasies about another woman,” says Menzise of the marital threesomes.In situations where people who are monogamous say ‘O.k., we’ll be able to work it out’ and their partner alludes to ‘I know what you’re saying, but I’m going to start seeing other people anyway,’ they typically do not succeed.” For those who present with a willingness to try open relating, their reasons vary but may often include incompatible sex drives.Menzise says he has seen many situations where one partner feels inadequate in a sense of not being experienced enough or not lasting long enough such as with a wife who may have a higher sex drive.Seku says, “Marriage is a great club to belong to say ‘I’m married’ and flash the ring.” He says he meets many men whose “intention is to be exclusive, but it’s not working for them.
He’s not able to satisfy her and he’s literally decided to bring someone else in,” notes Menzise. Most people wouldn’t believe how common a practice this is with a relationship: A man literally finding another to have sex with their wife.For them, the solution is needs met but without letting the wife know.” Seku suggests both parties practice being open.That is, “free and open to date other people, and connect organically.” According to Seku the best approach is when authenticity is key. Jeff Menzise, Doctor of Clinical Psychology and couples coach, is often referred and requested as a neutral party-mediator between couples considering opening up their relationship as a form of enhancement.Yet she is concerned that her husband still dates the same two women whereas she stays active “going through phases” between women and men alike.Mys Quiraa says of her husband, “He’s so hard to please. Our relationship is really moreso about him wanting me to have fun.” She acknowledges that it makes her feel good, “but it also makes me feel guilty.