Dating an angry man
All of life’s little instructions are scaffolded around the life of a single woman until all that advice and good intention begins to feel like a cage. I’ve dated men who have found other women to date when I’ve gone out of town over a weekend. I’ve matched with and messaged literally hundreds of men who simply never responded to what I had to say.
I’ve been single and dating for 11 years and never, not once, did something happy happen.
This much time full of this much garbage would make any human being angry. Dating has often made me hate men, hate being single, and even hate every waking moment of my life for how punishing it is.
Why do I try, and try, and I’m supposed to be happy, upbeat, well-dressed, thin but not too thin, successful but not more successful than the man I’m dating, funny but not funnier than the man I’m dating, kind, selfless, effortlessly put together, into the guy I’m dating and nobody else but not into him because he’ll get scared away, sweet, thoughtful, mentally stimulating, exciting and spontaneous but only a little so I’m not a mess, great in bed with a healthy but not too healthy sex drive, and also super pretty. I can’t be angry that all of these supposed tos are supposed to exist and certainly not angry that twisting myself to fit as many of them at the same time as humanly possible has still earned me net zero, right? A friend told me this story: She brought a date to her best friend’s wedding.
2) I can relate to his frustration, anger, confusion, and ignorance. I’ve been that guy who’s tired of always having to make the first move.
whether the guy is looking for a girlfriend, date, or just a friendship, etc.?
Why do people say it’s a Masculine thing for the guy, or Man to take the lead, make the first move, doing the approaching, asking the girl out, overall, taking the initiative, why?
I’m okay with a guy asking a girl out but the girl can at least start a first conversation, small talk, or flirt, but why do guys have to initiate everything or almost in the beginning before a potential date or potential relationship?
They’d been dating for a little while — not super long, but long enough to invite him to her best friend’s wedding across the country.
Not only is it up to the woman if she is going to have sex with me or not, it’s always up to her whether a relationship or date is going to happen. Sometimes learning a new mindset requires us to see the impossible.
If you think attracting women is hard, then you need to spend some time with guy’s who are amazing with women.
If you can’t find those guys, then read about them. Put yourself into the shoes of any cute girl and you’ll become overwhelmed by the unrelenting unrequested attention from creepy and dangerous men.
You can’t relate because you’ve never felt the physical/emotional dangers women do when dating. Do you mean working out 5 days a week, eating hardly nothing to stay thin, buying endless makeup, hair extensions, hair coloring, high heel shoes, perfumes, dresses, eye lash extensions, books to explain how to catch a guy, coffee’s with girlfriends to find out if he really likes you, and self defense courses in case he tries to rape you? All you have to do is put on pants and ask her out. The work I am referring to is that us guys always have to make the first move, and all the other moves that lead up to getting her number, first date, first kiss, first time making out, first time having sex, asking and starting the relationship, making it happen. Like playing a video game, or eating a yummy breakfast.