Cancer survivors and dating
' I tell them, ' Listen, I’m not going to let you feel me up on our first date, but there are no inappropriate questions.' I think it’s my calling to lift the misconceptions about breast cancer.
I recently met a guy who made it to my ' A team,' meaning he could be a real contender.
I got an MRI as a precaution, and it revealed a stage I tumor.
In two insane years I’ve had a double mastectomy; harvested my eggs; been through chemo and tamoxifen and in and out of depression and menopause; had my hair fall out and grow back; and had reconstruction that resulted in perfect, hard breasts with no nipples and amazing side boob. My body doesn’t function the way it did, but I’m more patient with it.
' I laughed and said, ' Sorry, I don’t feel that one!
“If you can’t handle that, keep it moving.” (And plenty of dates can handle it: “One of the top things singles say they are looking for is the ability to learn from a partner,” says Laurie Davis Edwards, founder of the online dating-coaching service e Flirt.' I’ve found that guys ask really smart, sensitive questions.Women often ask, ' How did you deal when you lost your hair?He passed the test by being willing to hang out with my friends and me at the park on our second date.At one point he put his head in my lap, and we were talking and laughing, and I leaned over so far he said, ' Is that a boob on my forehead?
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' But men go deeper: ' How should I talk to my sister who has breast cancer?